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My husband and I , with our dog, Tate, moved to Buenos Aires.. Life has never been the same since ~ Back in the USA ... life is still not the same !
It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new.
But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful.
There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.
Alan Cohen
"Outside of a dog, a book is a man's best friend.
Inside of a dog, it's too dark to read."
Groucho Marx
The doors we open and close each day decide the lives we live.

Wednesday, August 16, 2017

Too Much & Thank You

My husband died a couple of years ago. We were together every minute that we could be, since we met that day in NYC in 1970.
It has been a long and difficult time for me to adjust to the many many things that a single person who mostly feels like they are from another planet has to learn .. and do ... and manage.
Ordinary things that most people know early- I did not learn .. I learned things but the things that he was used to dealing with, he continued to deal with and I was blissfully able to Not Worry.
That was his mantra... Don't Worry, and so I tried not to and most everything was alright.

I moved to Florida .. I was glad that I would have family, my Mom to be around, to catch up on things with, to be around her and just talk .. she died a couple of weeks after I moved here.

I am feeling stronger and better able to manage on my own. Although I constantly fear I will forget something Important .. I have help sometimes with some things and I am lucky to have fantastic people who do things for me so I can't manage to ruin everything.

Last night I got an email.
My Aunt had died, suddenly. She was the baby in the family. My mom was the oldest child ..
In a couple of years, I have lost my husband, my mother and now my aunt ..
I think this is the dark side of aging .. those you love grow old too ... and they go away.
Leaving you behind with so many memories, so many good times and so many tears.

I am going to take a break .. I have always wanted to be entertaining when I blog, when I told my stories about Buenos Aires and even moving back to NY .. but lately there has not been much to talk about, unless you are fascinated with my accounts of silly cat tricks and scary weather forecasts.
Someone made a snide remark to me about wrapping myself in grief ... ok ... Yes, she intended to be hurtful, she has her own problems , but it made me think that I might not be aware of how other people feel about reading what I write, when I am sad. So this is a good time for a break.

 I will be around, I might drop a little note but right now I need to set my life into the right gear and head it in a new direction .. South has been nice .. but North might be nicer ..

Sending you all  love, thank you so much for reading my blog, for commenting, for sending me emails and generally becoming friends with this madwoman with cats ...
I cannot tell you how touched I have been by some of your notes to me and thank you so much for tips on how to manage when the world as you know it just disappeared ..
I would not have been able to be even near sane without the help of my friends .. all of you .. online, in phone calls and emails .. you were there when I needed someone.

There were people who for some reason pretended to be my friends, but those kind of people don't last .. and I have been left with You .. the sweet, kind, thoughtful people that I have never met in real life but who behave the way Real Friends should ... Thank you Thank you Thank you ..

Monday, August 14, 2017

Spam & the Cats

My Spam has gotten more interesting .. not only do I get the usual offers to hook me up with gorgeous women ... ( I have no idea) ...or offering me specials in holidays , bargain shopping and today ... I got an email about my taxes due ... in Brazil.

I never did get to go to Brazil.
We talked about it but we were having so much fun in Buenos Aires, we were so happy there, we put off trips farther away .... like Brazil... where I have never been ... or owe taxes...

I worry about money. I don't care how many times all kinds of people tell me I don't have to .. I do.
Now I have to worry about Brazil.

(not really .. I am not that nutty ... yet )

So the sky was blue and pretty, it is now solid clouds ... and there is no air, no breeze at all.
Tonight we are getting storms, winds and buckets of rain.

I would much rather be worried about how many feet of snow will fall than how much rain will fall.

So how has your Monday been ?

Light hearted ....
Minnette, the little girl, who rarely makes a sound, has learned to howl.
Yes, that little blue girl sounds like something in a 1950's Horror movie.

Honey, the triple plus size kitty, has a little baby girl meow.. totally charming.

Merlin ... purrs really loud ... makes funny ack ack noises at me if I annoy him, if I keep it up, he will smack me ... with no claws.
If I annoy Minette, she lets me have it, claws and all. . meow ..

I will keep busy this week  .. preparing for my future .. What are you doing ?

Honey takes a nap

**I have been told the Spam comes from me using online websites for shopping **

Plans To Make

                                        I had to share this, it totally gave me the giggles.

Today has been one of those "lucky" days, I guess you could call it. An ordinary Monday for me, cleaning up around the house, going to the supermarket with a list this time .. although there is enough cat food in the cupboard to last until next year .. I always worry about running out .. so I go overboard.

I went to the big supermarket and bought food, no cleaning products, no paper products, just food.
Last shopping, I came home and when it was time for dinner, there was nothing to et .. but I had enough paper towels to last a flood and cat food. I should buy stock in cat food.

I went to the market, did all my food shopping and went out to the car. The man parked next to me said something and we chatted a moment .. then I got into the car .. he said something else and I stopped to hear him .... behind me a car was pulling out of a space and another car hit her.
The man stopping me, I feel , saved me from being in a car crash in the parking lot.

I scurried home.
The skies turned blue/black .. very low and menacing. I was very glad I lived nearby and the garage is connected to the townhouse.. I walked in the house, opened the doors to the lanai, the cats ran out to nap and the skies opened up.
We all dashed back inside and now .. the blue sky is back.

So it was sort of one of those missed the bad stuff by a minute kind of days ... so far ...
I am staying in .. let it rain. ( Adele)
 I have plans to make ... plotting to do ...  information to get ... balls to start rolling ...

I was thinking about the things that have happened since my husband died. The changes are huge.
From one home to another ... from one state/part of the country to another ! Living in a totally different environment ... being more isolated than I ever was in New York ..  and Managing.
If for no other reason, I am proud of myself for managing.

Let's just hope I manage to get this next adventure well planned and accomplished..

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